We often hear, “You have to practice self-love.” But many of us don’t really know what self-love looks like in actual practice.
So what does loving yourself really entail?
1. It means self-care – caring for mind/body and soul.
2. It means loving yourself enough to invest in your own education, growth, and evolution.
3. It means deeply listening to and acting on the desires of your heart.
4. It means taking good care of your body, feeding yourself nourishing foods, and cultivating a positive mindset.
5. It means cultivating relationships that nourish your well-being.
6. Self-love requires recognizing your needs and getting them met in healthy ways. It requires setting good boundaries.
7. It means developing and utilizing your gifts, strengths, and talents.
8. Self-love requires self-acceptance. That means accepting all of yourself, warts and all.
9. Most of all, it means learning to be gentle and compassionate with yourself, because after all, you’re only human.
Self-love is a choice. It’s a series of decisions that you make daily. It won’t feel natural at first, that’s why you must fake it until you make it. It starts with the decision each day to feel good and be happy. If you’re going through bad times or having a bad day, ask yourself, “What can I do to make myself feel better today?” And then choose something that’s life affirming and self-nurturing. Esteemable acts build self-esteem. It’s as simple as that.
Self- love is a verb. How you treat yourself reveals all. Self-love is revealed in your self-talk and how you pay attention to and care for yourself. Do you neglect, criticize, and tear yourself down? Or do you build yourself up with kind and encouraging thoughts, words, and deeds?
Many people don’t want the responsibility that self-love and self-care entails. They would rather play the victim and/or make other people or circumstances responsible for their unhappiness. As long as they can play the victim or blame game, they don’t have to take action and be responsible for their actions.
Many people see happiness as something outside of themselves. They think they will be happy when certain conditions are met, such as losing weight, or getting material things, or when others behave towards them the way they want them to.
Happiness is a choice and must be made daily. It comes from within. It’s an attitude and a habit that must be continually cultivated and practiced, just like self-love.
The most courageous decision you can make is the decision to be happy right now. All that you are seeking will come from this.
You can’t hate your way into a better body. Self-love and self-acceptance create the fertile soil of self-transformation. When you build your body on the solid foundation of self-love, the results will be long lasting.
What are you going to do this week to show love and care for yourself?
When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small. My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.
― Kim McMillen, When I Loved Myself Enough
I am my own biggest critic. Before anyone else has criticized me, I have already criticized myself. But for the rest of my life, I am going to be with me and I don’t want to spend my life with someone who is always critical. So I am going to stop being my own critic. It’s high time that I accept all the great things about me.
― C. JoyBell C.
I feel keeping a promise to yourself is a direct reflection of the love you have for yourself. I used to make promises to myself and find them easy to break. Today, I love myself enough to not only make a promise to myself, but I love myself enough to keep that promise.
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
I am worth taking good care of. I’m all I’ve got.
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